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Money and Material Possessions
You want money, right? Lots of money! You also want things, material possessions. A nice big place to live, situated somewhere you like; and perhaps an extra place to live (like a cottage or summer house), somewhere else. You want nice means of transportation (cars, motorbikes, bikes, boats, etc.) and communication (telephones, computers, personal digital assistants (PDAs), etc.). Furthermore, you want nice clothes, nice food, nice entertainment and lots of other nice things that you would maybe call necessities. You Want It All Your demands may vary according to your culture and where you live (and thus according to what other people around you have and you expect), but generally speaking YOU WANT IT ALL. Question - and a Key WHY do you need all that money and all those material possessions? The previous sentence actually contains the key. The key is the word 'need'. You experience some sort of need inside yourself. You think and believe something about this need and the fulfilment of it and you let that control you. It's all happening inside you. Now, you don't NEED to know what is going on inside you, of course. You can just continue being and doing what you have been and done so far ... and get the same results you have been getting so far. But is that what you want? The Rat Race: Hopelessly Trying to Fulfil Your Needs Your results up until now may be great in terms of money and material possessions ... or they may be less than great; they may even be dismal. Either way you are probably looking into personal development, self help, self improvement and spirituality because you are not satisfied. The previous sentence contains another key word: 'satisfied'. So now we have two key words: needs and satisfied. Which means that we have a fix on your challenge: You want your needs satisfied. It's as simple as that. This is the primary reason why you engage in the rat race. The primary reason why you want money and material possessions. It's so that you can get your needs satisfied. But you know what? It doesn't work. Or, it works, but only a tiny bit - up to a level which you will VERY quickly reach. After that it is a fact, an annoying fact, that the 'hole' you feel inside you CANNOT be filled up using money and material possessions. So, maybe you DO need to understand what is going on inside you - and how to deal with it. You need some knowledge and some keys to escaping the rat race. If You Feel Poor Ultimately, though, more money and more material possessions are NOT going to satisfy you. Instead, what you need to figure out is: Exactly how much money (e.g. per month) is enough? Exactly how many houses, apartments, refrigerators, cars, boats, chairs, paintings, clothes, toothbrushes, etc. is enough? Read more about determining how much 'enough' is here [LINK: HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH?]. Money and Material Possessions are Impermanent Accepting the fact that money and material possessions come and go, and that this is all right is an excellent, empowering thing to do. And why wouldn't you? The fact that they come and go means that even though they go away, they do in fact come back again. The Fear Factor Interestingly enough, once you let go of your fear with regards to having enough money and material possessions, then money and material abundance start flowing to you all by themselves. Why? Perhaps because without the fear you are more open, receptive and in line with life itself? Your Primary Key to Escaping the Rat Race - Needs ... which are the temporary (and relative) things/thingamajigs you THINK you want - Happiness ... which is the permanent (and absolute) thing/thingamajig you REALLY want Let's look briefly at each of them so that you can distinguish them from each other. Needs For example your basic human need for control comes in variations like: your specific needs to control your home (e.g. how it looks, what it contains and that you can pay the rent); or your job (e.g. that you are doing something worthwhile, getting adequately paid and get along with your colleagues and your boss); or your sport, or your partner, or your children, or your dog, or yourself, or simply an everyday shopping situation in your local store. Theoretically speaking all the seven basic human needs are relative [LINK] and thus their fulfilment provides only temporary satisfaction. This is important! It means that even if you fulfil a need right now, the need will be back a moment later. If not today, then tomorrow, or the day after. Why? Needs Are 90 Percent Thoughts and Belief In other words, you do need some things (like water, food, shelter, love, meaning in your life, etc.), but you only need about 10 percent of what you think you need. The rest is just make believe. Haven't you noticed how thoughts keep repeating themselves over and over and over? Well, since your needs are mostly thought, they do the same thing. In other words, your needs will keep coming back to haunt you. Do you really need that amount of money each month? No, you don't. Not REALLY. Do you really need that house, apartment, car, piece of designer clothing, you-name-it? Nope. Do you really need that EXTRA money and that EXTRA you-name-it? Of course you don't. Yes, you probably think you do ... in order to feel safe, maybe ... but really, you don't. Most likely it clutters up your life and you would probably be much better off with less. But you really think you need all that money, all those things. You really do. Because your needs keep coming back again and again. However, if you believe more that 10 percent of what your needs say, well, then you are setting yourself up as a rat in the rat race! Recurring Needs Become Habits, Today, those are old habits, and you do not even question them anymore. They are on the verge of becoming beliefs [LINK] to you, or they have already become your beliefs. So: You are trapped. Your own thoughts, make believe needs, habits and beliefs have made you a rat trapped in the rat race. There is an alternative, though. Happiness Interestingly, happiness is basically absolute in nature, which means that it is always there. If you do not experience some kind of happiness all the time (and most people emphatically do not) then it is simply because something has come in the way of your experience - much like the sun is always shining, but sometimes clouds get in the way of your experience of that. The most common type of 'cloud' (when it comes to happiness) is fear [LINK]. I know that saying 'happiness is always there, like the sun' probably sounds unbelievable to many people. Nevertheless there are people walking this earth who are genuinely happy most of the time. And (happily) their numbers are growing (according to research). I have known a few of these people in my lifetime, and I guess I myself am rapidly becoming one of them. Does Happy Equal Stupid? If you choose to be unhappy much of the time, then that's what you will be. Your personal reality will reflect your choice and be an unhappy reality. Being unhappy is just as valid a choice as being happy, and an unhappy personal reality is just as (personally) real as a happy personal reality. It's all up to you. The Acid Test: Letting Go of Your Fear Please click on this link if you want to understand more about happiness. Your Secondary Key to Escaping the Rat Race Now, basically there are two kinds of primary focus you can have: - A primary focus on GETTING; which is an acceptance/love based focus on something positive that you WANT (desire) - A primary focus on AVOIDING; which is a fear based focus on something negative that you DON'T WANT Having your primary focus be acceptance based and on something positive is much more powerful than having your primary focus be fear based and on something negative. The positive, acceptance based focus is much more in tune with the way life is and works (unconditional love) than the negative, fear based focus. But isn't wanting more money and more material possessions a focus on GETTING? Yes, it is. But we are talking about your PRIMARY focus (in life) here, not just your focus on any given thing (like money or material possessions). Find Your Primary Focus 'Deep down WHY do I want more money (or: more material things) ...' '- Is it because there is something positive I would love to experience - something that would give me a deep and perhaps even lasting feeling of joy, love and wholeness?' or '- Is it because there is something negative that I fear and do not want to experience - so that I am now focussed on safety, security and avoidance?' Some people will answer 'both' to this question. Maybe you do, too. But that is because you are not being completely, unconditionally honest with yourself. You KNOW whether your primary focus is based in love (GETTING) or in fear (AVOIDING). And if you feel that you really, truly don't know, then you can probably assume that it is based in fear and a focus on AVOIDING, because that is how it is for most people, and if you have the love based focus, you will probably know it. More info about GETTING or AVOIDING is upcoming [LINK]. In Conclusion Generally speaking you will probably want to focus beyond your needs, beyond money and material possessions. Happiness, inner peace and the meaning of life are good places to start. Also, money and material possessions come and go: sometimes you have them; sometimes you don't. Accepting this is a way to empower yourself. Furthermore switching your focus from fear and avoidance to getting that which you love and desire will empower you no end. The funny thing is that as you do these things, money and material abundance follow all by themselves! I LOVE Your Support The Personal Development Guy's Self Improvement Ezine (FREE) See you in the self improvement newsletter / ezine. 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